Expectations....... never!!!!!!!

Last few days have been very confusing…. So many things at a time… I’ve heard about this once…a time when you feel nothing is going your way and you can’t blve it coz everything you were asking for was so common and obvious to expect….why do we feel cheated ..just because things didn’t went the way we wanted them to be…we expected something which unexpectedly ddnt happened… or just because people chose this time to leave when we were expecting them to stay….or because people took you for granted… n u expected them to atleast respect the relation. . but if we start thinking about all that happened and had happened in the past, there was noone to be blamed but ourself…. And our expectations… we carried these set of supposedly accepted expectations with us and attached them to people around us…we identify people not for what they are but the behavior we expect from them in different situations. But then one argument is that having expectations and setting expectations is quite human and is important too. I say yes it is but equally important is to communicate them. You have some expectations from a relationship and you measure your relationship with that person on those parameters, but does the other person know what is expected out of him. People are different and so are the level and intensity of such expectations. You are the judge for your expectations but does the person know what you are expecting from him?? For any relation to survive, the clarity of expectations is what is required. And if one talks about rational expectancy theory or implied expectations of a relation then, my friend, others are not as smart as you are. And you needs to understand that. Expectations are and should always be there in a relation but…..someone has very well said……I do my things and you do yours. I am not in this world to live upto your expectations, and you are not in this world to live upto mine. You are you and I am I. We met, had a relation and had some expectations from each other, if those expectations are clear, justified and we are ready to accept those, everything is gonna be beautiful. If not it can’t be helped and we need to move on. We just can’t keep thinking about the past and keep feeling cynical about everything we do later.